Tuesday, February 15, 2011

I Love D.

When people find out D is from Scotland often times their first question is, "Does he have an accent?!"

Not a thick one. Sorry to disappoint!

The other night while D and I were snuggling on the couch I begged him to put on his accent. It is so charming, but for the most part he has let it go by the way side. It all started with a mission companion who couldn't understand a word he said. So he decided if he wanted to be an effective missionary he'd better slow down his speech. The Scottish talk very fast! Have you met my father-in-law??

There is part of it that I think will linger on forever, the way he formulates certain vowels. That will never change because he tries really hard but he can't fake a perfect American accent (If you ever meet him, ask him to say "Thank You" he has no idea, but it's my favorite! He has to work really hard to get it out. I hope he doesn't stop saying it because I said this...I really do think it is charming.)

I won't lie, I crushed on his accent before I crushed on him.

Last month we celebrated Donny's fifth anniversary in the United States.

We celebrated at IHOP. That was as creative as we could think to be. The International House of Pancakes.

I am really glad he decided to come to the States for his higher education, and that I happened to transfer the same semester to the same school. It was fate! :)

We have been married four and a half years. August will be our fifth wedding anniversary. If you have calculated things in your head then you realize that we really did not date very long. To be exact we dated four months before we were engaged and were married two months after that. YIKES! I would have some serious words to speak to my daughter (and my Mom and Dad had a few for me too!!) if she ever tries to pull something like that! (D agrees!)

I was 20 years old, starting my senior year in university. I was young, didn't know who I was or what I wanted or needed for that matter. I was giddy and boy crazy, young and in love. And probably thought that I had things together. I was crazy about a Scottish boy.

Looking back I shake my head. Which brings me to my point of this post.

Everyday I thank God that D is the person he is.

Really, he could have turned out to be anything but wonderful.

We didn't really know each other. We didn't take the time to get to know each other before we were married. I believe in inspiration and personal revelation but I also believe that faith is an action word! We have to do our part (such as date and get to know the person and decide we want to be with them forever).

It is a REALLY good thing that God knew I needed to be watched closely in this department so I wouldn't make a terrible mistake.

D and I work hard at our marriage, and that is why it is a great one. It hasn't always been blissful, and we have had our struggles, but we work through them and we are better for them.

D loves me and cares for our marriage. He is unselfish enough that we are able to progress. He is always working to better himself and takes his role in our marriage seriously. We are on the same page. It really takes two unselfish people to make one happy marriage.

We aren't perfect and we have a long way to go, but the beauty of that is that it is okay, because we are getting better.
We bring out the best (and sometimes the worst :) in each other. After nearly five years of marriage I know both of us better. I know a lot more of who I am and a lot more of who D is. I made a really good choice to marry him. I feel so blessed that he is who he is.

Five words that describe D,

* Gentle
* Caring
* Compassionate
* Willing
* Eager

I love that I know him better than anyone knows him. I love that we both care enough to work at our marriage every single day. I love to look back over the last four and a half years and see what we have become.

I love D.

p.s. Valentines Day was rockin' at our house. That is why I didn't get around to posting this yesterday. Here is the proof.

Left to right, top to bottom:
Invited our neighbor upstairs to come make cookies (with the supplies my mom sent see last picture) so we could meet. Received some really sweet valentines from lots of friends. D and I went out on Saturday thanks to Tori, hands down - best date we've had. Pretty flowers from D and valentines decor. A valentine for Vevie. More cookies. Valentines Day dinner: homemade macaroni and cheese (D's fav), with a pink baguette. Package from Grandma and Grandpa for the kiddies with lots of valentine surprises!


Whit said...

your valentine's does look rockin!
i'm glad you married D too -- he's a pretty good guy.
hope all is well.

Deidra said...

Chris and I dated for about a month before we had a temple date. We were semi-engaged for a few months and officially engaged for just over a month. In the midst of the whirlwind I called my mom, wanting her to talk me out of the madness. Her response? "Love makes you do crazy things!" (Her and my dad had a very similar fast-paced engagement.) I hope I'm in tune if my daughter ever gets herself in the same predicament because it can turn out wonderfully (thankfully!), but I also imagine it could be a really awful disaster. Tough call.

I look forward to the post on balancing self-reliance. For something I'm so obsessed about, it sure gives me lots of anxiety sometimes!

Annajean D. said...

You two are so cute! I couldn't hear any accent when your husband spoke in Sacrament Meeting a couple of weeks ago. When I learned he was Scottish I was like "really?" :-) This post makes me want to be married for 5 years! We just celebrated our 2nd anniversary, only we were much older when we finally got married. After all that looking there was no way we were going to prolong our engagement! We got (un-officially) engaged on our 3rd date and then got married 4 months later. I think his family may have been a little weirded out-but my mom actually told me at one point that she though we should get married a month earlier (!?!?) At times I think thinks would have been a lot easier if we had had more dating time, but when you KNOW as strongly as we did you just don't mess around. Marriage is crazy, but wonderful all the same!

The Brzozowski's said...

When I asked about your husband for the first time..I saw you light up. It was something simple but I could tell you were happy. Those cookies were so yummy!

Joan said...

You guys are really cute. And I could hear the Scottish accent when your hubby spoke in sacrament meeting, and it was charming. My husband and I were engaged for 7 weeks before we got married and we will be celebrating 7 years in August! Before your mouth drops at the 7 weeks, you should know that we dated in high school and I sent him off on his mission. When he got back we got engaged and were married after 7 weeks of him being home.


is it just me or have a few of your pics not been turning up? im sad....but it sounds like your day was awesome even if i cant see it!

Jason and Bria said...

haha so fun. remember for donny's birthday last year i told him i liked is accent. good times. thank you for the sweet valentine. we need to skype. its been like way too long. your valentines day looked awesome. jason bought us Despicable Me. he loves that movie. miss you.

Jaclyn said...

You look great! You are right, Donny is awesome and very patient.